Chelsea Handler says she’s been on an “emotional rollercoaster” since she ended her relationship with fellow comedian Jo Coy less than a year later.
Handler was candid about when and why things didn’t work out between them, and how that led to their breakup, which she said happened about a month ago.
“My love was so great it just blew me away,” Handler said, sounding like she was on the verge of tears, during an appearance on the podcast.We can do complex things with Glennon Doyle.” on Thursday.
The former late-night host sounded like she was the one who ended her relationship with Koi after being in trouble “for a while”.
“We’ve been doing this behind the scenes for a while,” Handler said, adding that they had previously tried to resolve issues in therapy.
“I think when you have the reason and the courage to say that something isn’t working, you say a lot more to the whole world,” she said, still visibly flustered. “And you’re inviting to things that are workable and more suited to your needs and what you’re available for.”
Doyle asked Handler when it was time to “stop digging” in a relationship, and she gave a very honest answer.
“I think when it becomes untenable. And it gets unhealthy,” Handler said. “If you argue, you know it’s hereditary. If you can’t have calm, loving, consistent conversations and you’re not a team – you don’t feel like a team – then it becomes untenable.”
“I wasn’t about to give up on myself,” the comedian added. “And if I have to choose one person, I have to choose myself.”
“It’s nice to bend to people, it’s nice to learn to compromise. It’s nice to learn how to show your love in public. This is what I could never do for anyone, but I think Joe needed it,” Handler explained. “I was so inspired by us…but Joe didn’t reveal me. My psychiatrist hacked me and that’s when I opened up.”
“And then I was able to bend over for someone and move and compromise and make them the biggest part of my life, but you can’t change someone fundamentally,” she said. “And I was ready to do so many curves, but there is a line. And I’m very proud of myself that I didn’t let myself cross that line.”
Handler said she is “doing well” and “is optimistic about the future.”
“I still believe that my man will come. Whether it’s Jo Coy at a certain time or not, I accept it,” Handler said.
Handler and Coy publicly announced that they are ending their relationship on Tuesday and also posted a video they made ahead of their upcoming anniversary.
“It’s with a heavy heart that we’ve decided together that the best thing for us to do is take a break from our relationship right now,” Handler said at the time, calling her ex “one of the greatest gifts of my life.” “
Coy, in my breakup postsaid he was “Handler’s biggest fan” and promised that they “will always remain great friends and will always love each other”.