Boundary Respect

NOBODY possesses full knowledge, wisdom or insight. What we think, believe and feel is always filtered through the lens of our own experience. We will certainly win if we listen to each other’s points of view. Hopefully sharing ideas will help us learn and improve. However, we have the right to our own mental space. Respecting boundaries means that this space must exist both for ourselves and for others.

Every relationship is unique, but all relationships must respect boundaries. We may overstep boundaries because we think we know what is best for someone, or we may believe we are trying to help or protect them; thus, we try to control the person or the circumstances. We must respect the limitations of others in our lives so that they feel safe and comfortable with us.

Healthy boundaries are easy to adapt. They have enough strength and firmness to keep us safe and autonomous, but also open enough to ensure connection and mutual respect. We are ready to take charge of our lives when we set healthy boundaries. And we should encourage others to do the same. This means that we should not hold others responsible for the results of our life choices or expect them to fix us or our problems. We also do not take responsibility or feel responsible for improving the lives of others. Of course, we can help others and get help when needed. However, we do so with the awareness and respect that we all have sovereignty over our own lives.

Here are some tips on how to respect other people’s boundaries.

Communicate

Proper communication is necessary to recognize the boundaries of others. Pay attention to how they react to you in conversations, as well as their body language. It is very important to determine if they are satisfied with your requests. Do they seem closed or do they offer reasons to withdraw from the discussion or go somewhere else? If you’re not sure, don’t be afraid to ask questions. Let them set their limits so you know if you’re infringing. Communication in an established relationship is likely to be ongoing, as the two of you may need to clear things up from time to time.

Don’t take yourself too seriously

You understand that you are not the center of the world, right? You can’t argue with the fact that you often forget about it and interpret other people’s emotions as if they are completely related to you. But here’s the thing: just as you don’t care about a lot of what you say or do in your daily life, the same applies to others. If someone disagrees with you about something, instead of getting upset, appreciate their point of view.

Accept differences

People tend to forget that their style of thinking may be different from that of others. As a consequence, they keep pushing someone or keep doing what they think is perfectly normal, completely ignoring the other person’s point of view. Remember how you define your rights and set your own boundaries? It’s the same for them. It’s easy to have good intentions for those you care about, but everyone needs space and personality. You can recommend or advise people, but you cannot make their decisions for them. If you keep pushing people with your goals, you will only make life harder for them.

Work on yourself

Respect for the boundaries of others stems from a sense of personal security and security. You should not feel obligated to force people or violate their restrictions for any reason. You have no influence on what others will or will not do. You can definitely try, but they will eventually crawl out from under your influence and go their own way. Respect for boundaries is a skill that needs to be practiced. It is a procedure that requires self-acceptance and tolerance for unpleasant situations. By allowing people to have thoughts and opinions different from our own, we gain a wonderful freedom. This means that we should not feel responsible for what we cannot control, and we can indeed accept the fact that our thoughts and attitudes do not have to adapt to the expectations of others.

Respecting the boundaries of others shows them that you are a reliable and polite person. This will open the door to developing closer relationships with both those with whom you have a good relationship and those with whom you do not. After all, not everyone needs best friends. Having a group of casual acquaintances or respected colleagues is useful in itself.