Mena Suvari says abusive ex ruined some aspects of sex for her

Previous relationship with an ex-partner forever affected the actor Mena Suvaripoint of view on sex, she said The keeper in an interview published on Wednesday.

Suvari, who is best known for her roles in the 1999 films American Beauty and American Pie, says her ex, a lighting engineer, coerced her into using uncomfortable sex toys and forced her to take other women for threesomes.

The 43-year-old writes about it in her 2021 memoir. “Great World”. From being called names to needing treatment after repetitive rough anal sex, she said she was so desperate for his affection that she coped with the abuse by taking drugs.

“I was not loved. I was just a body, a receptacle for his desires,” she wrote in her memoirs.

During the relationship, according to Suvari, she endured countless acts of sexual abuse, such as forced sex. invite other women for threesomes – even those she met while working.

She told The Guardian that after the relationship ended, she ran into one of the women she had a threesome with and told her, “I want you to know that I never wanted to do any of this.” .

The woman was surprised and said the ex told her that Suvari “wanted to do it”.

Suvari called the moment “eye-opening”, allowing her to see how he was manipulating her.

“Circumstances were made for me and I just devoured them,” she added.

She lamented the fact that she never got to know about her own sexuality in a healthy relationship – especially since she was raped from her older brother’s friend when she was in sixth grade.

Suvari also noted that she does not judge others who enjoy threesomes or sex toys.

“I never wanted to speak negatively about things that could be very helpful to other people. I was given no choice or permission to do so and it was so devastating for me,” she told The Guardian.

Suvari added that “the confusing thing” about experiencing sexual abuse is that part of it is “kind of satisfying. But then the other part is an absolute nightmare, so you’re confused, you don’t know what’s right. All this still weighs on me, because I have never had the opportunity to open myself in this way.

She said the idea of ​​dating someone in high school and then deciding to lose her virginity to that person “sounds so beautiful to me” but “it was all lost to me.”

Suvari has been married to prop designer Michael Hope since 2018 and has a one-year-old son. When she is not acting, she working with disadvantaged youth Vista del Mar in Southern California.